What are you changing about your online dating routine for 2025?

SurfersMatch members weighed in on this question. Here’s what 1,081 people had to say.

changing online dating routine for 2025

The Winner

Top answer
I'll meet up with more of my matches in-person
45.1% of votes — 488 out of 1,081

Poll Results

I'll meet up with more of my matches in-person
45.1%
488
I'll send the first message
21.6%
234
I'll be less fussy
14.2%
153
Nothing, it's going great!
10.8%
117
Something else (tell us below!)
8.2%
89

Demographics: Gender Breakdown per Answer

I'll meet up with more of my matches in-person
Gender breakdown
Men
70.7%
Women
29.1%
Couples
0.0%
Other
0.2%
I'll send the first message
Gender breakdown
Men
68.8%
Women
29.9%
Couples
0.0%
Other
1.3%
I'll be less fussy
Gender breakdown
Men
68.0%
Women
31.4%
Couples
0.0%
Other
0.7%
Nothing, it's going great!
Gender breakdown
Men
68.4%
Women
30.8%
Couples
0.0%
Other
0.9%
Something else (tell us below!)
Gender breakdown
Men
69.7%
Women
30.3%
Couples
0.0%
Other
0.0%

Demographics: Age Distribution (All Voters)

18–24
2.7%
25–34
8.5%
35–44
16.9%
45–54
22.2%
55–64
25.3%
65+
24.3%

What the Data Shows

The biggest shift members plan for 2025 is meeting up in person more: 45.1% chose this, reflecting a post-pandemic recalibration that’s been building across the dating world. Too many connections stay digital too long, and the SurfersMatch community knows it. The screen is a start, not the destination.

Sending the first message more proactively came second at 21.6% — a sign that members recognize passive swiping has its limits. Being less fussy (14.1%) and trying something else entirely (8.2%) round out the active-change camp. Only 10.8% said nothing needs to change because it’s already going great.

Reading across the data, SurfersMatch members enter 2025 with a clear-eyed sense of what’s been holding them back: digital comfort zones, excessive selectivity, and waiting for the other person to reach out first. The data-driven resolution is to do more of the real thing — get off the app and into a conversation face to face.

This poll received 1,081 responses from SurfersMatch members. Demographics are self-reported. Poll published December 30, 2024.

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