Which of these would guarantee a second date with you?
SurfersMatch members weighed in on this question. Here’s what 1,561 people had to say.
The Winner
Top answer
Simple respect and kindness
50.7% of votes — 791 out of 1,561
Poll Results
Demographics: Gender Breakdown per Answer
Simple respect and kindness
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Someone who makes me laugh!
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Finding things in common
Gender breakdown
A little bit of mystery
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Flowers! Or some kind of gift
Gender breakdown
What the Data Shows
Simple respect and kindness earned 50.7% of votes — a majority, and not a close one. This is the community speaking plainly: what guarantees a second date isn’t a grand gesture or mystery, it’s being treated well. For people who often deal with the emotional ups and downs of dating, this signal is clear.
Making someone laugh came second at 23.4%, reinforcing that warmth and humor carry real weight in the SurfersMatch world. Finding things in common (19.1%) rounds out the top three — all answers that emphasize genuine human connection over performance or tactics.
Flowers or gifts attracted just 2.3% of votes, suggesting that material gestures matter far less here than how you make someone feel in the moment. Mystery got 4.6%. The picture that emerges is of a community that values substance: be kind, be funny, find common ground, and the second date takes care of itself.