Have you ever dated two people at once?
SurfersMatch members weighed in on this question. Here’s what 1,503 people had to say.
The Winner
Top answer
No, I like to focus on one person at a time
50.8% of votes — 764 out of 1,503
Poll Results
Demographics: Gender Breakdown per Answer
No, I like to focus on one person at a time
Gender breakdown
I wouldn’t feel comfortable!
Gender breakdown
Yeah, it was thrilling
Gender breakdown
Yes, but it wasn’t for me
Gender breakdown
No, but I’ve thought about it
Gender breakdown
What the Data Shows
A clear majority — 50.8% — say they’ve never dated two people simultaneously and prefer focusing on one person. Another 22.0% said they tried it but it wasn’t for them. Together, that’s nearly three in four members who lean toward exclusive or sequential dating rather than keeping multiple connections open.
Still, 12.5% found the experience thrilling and 6.7% have at least thought about it, showing that the community isn’t monolithic on this. Dating apps do invite a certain amount of parallel processing early on, and some members embrace that phase with enthusiasm.
The “I wouldn’t feel comfortable” response (22.0%) sits right alongside “Yes, but it wasn’t for me,” suggesting that discomfort — not moral objection — is the main barrier for many. Male respondents were more likely to report having done it than female respondents, consistent with broader patterns in how different demographics approach early-stage dating.