Do you think opposites really attract?
SurfersMatch members weighed in on this question. Here’s what 1,495 people had to say.
The Winner
Top answer
It all depends on the people
59.4% of votes — 888 out of 1,495
Poll Results
Demographics: Gender Breakdown per Answer
It all depends on the people
Gender breakdown
Yes, it keeps things exciting!
Gender breakdown
No, I prefer to date someone more like me
Gender breakdown
What the Data Shows
The community’s answer is nuanced: 59.4% say whether opposites attract “just depends on the people.” It’s the pragmatist’s answer, and it’s the right one — attraction is personal, and the science on this is genuinely mixed. SurfersMatch members resist easy generalizations about love.
A meaningful 30.0% do believe opposites attract and find it exciting. Contrast creates spark, these members say, and the things that differ become sources of fascination rather than friction. Only 10.6% prefer to date someone similar — the smallest camp by a wide margin.
Across age groups, the “it depends” response dominates at every bracket. The “opposites attract” fans are slightly more concentrated in the 55–64 range, perhaps reflecting decades of seeing surprising pairs work beautifully. Whatever the theory, the community’s bottom line is clear: chemistry is chemistry, and rules rarely capture it.